Relational First Aid Kit

To promote a healthy classroom environment for all students, including Limited English Proficient and English Second Language learners, teachers must be aware of the causes and symptoms of an unhealthy learning environment. Most people can immediately recognize the differences between an unhealthy and a healthy learning environment. Effective teachers are very familiar with the items, actions and attitudes that help create a healthy classroom environment. They know that a healthy classroom contains all of the items found in this first aid kit.

 

Emotional Stethoscope - Reading the emotional needs of children can be challenging because children do not always verbalize their needs. Effective teachers have developed their own "emotional stethoscope" to observe and identify the roots of child behaviors. For some people the skill comes naturally, but for others, it is a skill that must be learned. Secondary students who have "fallen through the cracks" often recall feeling alienated by classroom teachers when they failed to meet a teacher's expectations. Often the withdrawn and quiet students who simply "do not get the work done" are waiting for a teacher to demonstrate genuine concern and caring. For many students school is their safest emotional environment, and they need sensitive teachers to help them deal with their emotional issues often exacerbated by puberty. Quality teachers have a built-in emotional stethoscope.

 

Respect and Encouragement - The miracle salve that cures all scrapes, scratches, bruises, wounded egos and broken spirits. Apply often and apply generously! Helping students feel good about themselves and their learning does not happen by mistake. Respect has some very deeply entrenched cultural implications. Some sociologists comment on the Afro-American culture as having historically been a matriarchal society, where it is culturally reinforced for young males freely give respect to female authoritarian figures. The Hispanic culture has culturally reinforced male dominance and a female authority figure humiliating a young male in front of his peers has cultural significance beyond "school rules." Some Asian cultures demonstrate respect and humility by not looking straight into the eyes of authority figures. Teachers need to know these cultural underpinnings and respect students and their cultural heritage. Be a model of respect and encouragement for your students.

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- Every student is unique. They all come to our classrooms with varying backgrounds and needs. To truly create a healthy learning environment, teachers need to view each child as an individual, respect each child's uniqueness, and design learning strategies that will help each student become successful. This requires a teacher to be extremely knowledgeable about individual learning styles, brain research, language development, different cultures, personality styles, learning difficulties, student rights and legal issues. The new profile of a quality teacher looks more like a physician than a typical teacher. It is no longer acceptable to assign everyone in a classroom the same type of activity. Physicians don't prescribe the same treatments for all patients. They address the specialized needs of each individual. Physicians also take advantage of more professional growth opportunities than most other professions. They read medical journals and keep their skills fresh since new medical solutions and effective treatment methods are published every day. Keep education a profession by keeping abreast of research on learning. Take advantage of professional development opportunities so that you will have the information necessary to improving how students feel about learning.


Band-Aids for Security and Safety - Although schools can install metal detectors, require wearing uniforms to eliminate the danger of gang-related activity, and increase security patrols to deter bullying, the underlying cause of adolescent violence is a need to feel accepted and secure. School environments with institutionalized approaches to herding students through the system do not project a safe and secure setting for many students. Instead they feel like inferior outsiders caught in a system they did not design and one that does not value them. The cure is to let each student know he or she is valued as an individual. Teachers are the only ones that can accomplish that gigantic feat. Those who do are the true professionals. They are the ones students remember positively throughout their lives. 


Don't Forget the Tongue Depressor -
Depress Negative Communication; your own and your students. One of the most powerful detriments to learning is when children are humiliated or ridiculed either privately or publicly. The painful experience of being verbally humiliated remains with students long after they change teacher, move on to a higher grade level or change schools. This is particularly true of students who must overcome additional barriers like learning an new language and assimilating into a new culture. These students can often be extremely self-conscious of their "being different." When many bilingual adults today are asked today about their most embarrassing school memory, many speak of the insensitivity of a teacher or fellow students about their culture or speech patterns. It is not uncommon for ESL children today to refuse to use their native language once they have learned English because of a feeling they received in school that their language was inferior to English. Be a model for your students. Sarcasm, humiliation, and labeling have no place in a healthy learning environment. Speak with your students about the value of positive, encouraging communication. 


The 5 A's of Relational Needs
David Ferguson and Bruce Walker, authors of Relational First Aid describe five needs that are common to all humans. People who do not have these needs met in childhood often play out the need throughout their adult lives. 
Approval - building up, or affirming, speaking well of another
Acceptance - receiving another person willingly, favorably, and unconditionally
Attention - conveying appropriate interest and consideration; entering another's world
Appreciation - communicating personal thanks or gratefulness for another with words and feelings
Affection - expressing care and closeness through appropriate physical touch